Breaking Patterns: How Awareness Leads to Lasting Transformation
A few weeks ago, I jammed my toenail. It turned black and eventually fell off. But when it did, I discovered something surprising—a completely new, healthy nail was already growing underneath.
For years, ever since breaking this toe in 2003, I had accepted the strange, misshapen nail as “normal.” Suddenly, after all this time, it was gone—replaced by wholeness.
This small experience reminded me how often we accept unhealthy patterns or imperfections in ourselves, not because they serve us, but because we’ve convinced ourselves there’s nothing we can do. We tell ourselves, “This is just how it is.”
But just like that new toenail, transformation is always possible.
Forgiveness Practice for Healing Relationships
The idea of forgiveness has come up often in my sessions recently. Forgiveness is not about condoning someone’s behavior, nor is it about forgetting what has happened. It is about releasing the toxic energy of anger, resentment, and pain that keeps us bound to the past. True forgiveness creates space for healing, freedom, and compassion—both for ourselves and others.